More Awesome Than You!

I had a Sim with a ghost husband and ghost teenage son, living with his parents, so there were five in the house. For some reason they homelessed themselves, and I managed to retrieve the living ones easily enough by inviting them over to another household and adding them to the active family. However, the ghost members no longer show up in anyone's relationship panels, including the father and husband who still lives... is there a way I can force them to visit his lot? I think the game might have decided out of the blue that they were really dead, not just ghosts. Both of them were born as ghosts if it has any relevance.

They show up on the List Homeless listing of Awesomemod, but I can't give them money with familyfunds. It just won't take, I think it's because I have other families with the same surname. I tried building a cheapass house and using runstoryaction Move In Household, but it gives me an error of apostrophe for that specific family... any way to correct this at all?

Change the name of every other fambly that shares that name, THEN try?