Re: The Patch - I've also installed it hacks and all and have had no trouble *crosses fingers*
Re: The Ottomas Family - I used InSim to fix the father situation. Although admittedly I only play them because I am hugely masochistic...the twins are even fuglier than the rest of the family(yes trust me - and my eye bleach - it's true, here is my link to the Blog I did on them).
I will also add here I love this site and the hacks here-in