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ZephyrZodiac:
It seems to be the general opinion of nearly everyone here! I'd be interested to know how many teenagers also agree......
Danni:
Quote from: ZephyrZodiac on 2005 August 26, 15:32:15
The village thing is great, it still exists in some remote parts of the UK too, but where is the village at 3.00 am when the young mum is distraught from sleepless nights and ready to do anything - and I mean that advisedly - to silence the little wailer? Whereas post-natal depression is often quickly recognised in older women, often because they or their partners have some pre-knowledge of the condition and go for help quickly, the condition is often missed in teenagers, and it's just put down to general teenage moodiness!
In my case, the village is down the street or around the corner at 3am (both my parents-in-law and grandparents-in-law are willing to help out at any time if I feel I cannot cope :P) but I am extremely lucky in living in a village where nearly half of it consists of relatives or close friends of my partner who are willing to help however they can :)
I was diagnosed with post-natal depression at 17, go figure :P
I don't agree that the grandparents should have responsibility for their grandchild. The situation I'm in with my daughter and parents-in-law is ideal for us, as I have primary care for my daughter (along with my partner), but we have family backup if we need it, and we get a few hours off a month to enjoy ourselves and be young as there's always a willing babysitter :)
I still get the occasional sleepless night, and it's hard work, and it does mean I've probably missed out on the whole teenager era (I'm 19 now, was between 13 - 16 when I had to look after my siblings, and 17 when I gave birth to my daughter), but although I think it would have probably been better to wait longer, I can look after my daughter most of the time, and I know it's mine (and my partner's - it's his child too!) responsibility.
I don't think teenagers should have children- from a teenage mother :P
ZephyrZodiac:
Well, first off, congratulations Danni, to you and your partner, for being strong and overcoming your problems yourselves. I wish you and your child well in the future, and I hope once your child is older you will be able to have a little more time for fun.
veilchen:
ZZ, that brought back memories. My son had a very hard time while teething, and we frequently walked the floor with him at night. Inevitably, during the next day I was asked whether my son's teeth broke through yet, and free advise from everyone around. They were very aware that we once again spend the night pacing with him. Big ears, big eyes :D
I did have a lot of help; my family was all around me, parents, siblings, aunts, unlces, cousins, the works. But I never demanded it, they volunteered. I did the same for them, we always help each other out, and that goes for the villagers too. Unfortunately, this doesn't work for the majority of the population, the village mentality is only alive and breathing in, well, villages now-a-days.
Danni, it is refreshing to hear a success story, I wish there were more of them. Post-partum depression is real and dangerous to the health of the mother, thankfully it has gained some wider acceptance lateley. That was another area where women were told to "just get over it". I swear, I am getting so sick and tired of these words.
ZephyrZodiac:
Veilchen, I so agree with your last paragraph! And the other thing, if you're female and go to the doctor complaining of feeling ill, they automatically put you on anti-depressants. If a man goes with the same symptoms, they do a thorough check to find out what's wrong!
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