I don't really want casual romance- my waterbed handles that and they might clash- but I have nightlife so I guess I will wait for the romance mod to be updates. 
By the way I did mean red, and yes she was cheated on. It was an accident,  they had a visitor and I  had just put in lizzieloves waterbed. I was downstairs keeping after thier twin toddlers and keeping an eye on the nanny. I didn't realize until the twins had grown into kids ( a real day later) that something was wrong. She refused his kiss, so I checked the relationsip scren and sure enough
 but she fulfilled the ten kids want with him. Low and behold she has the memory of being cheated on, I was like with whoooo? he had the memory of woohooing with one of the older kids' teenage friend. Man was I in shock- But hey they got 16 Kids- she just has to get over it. So she's a big elixer drinker and she's been mad for most of this "adulthood" 

Thanks for the help!